When I was in youth group, we did this pantomime to a song about Matthew 25; the sheep and the goats. I remember the line “for I was in prison and you visited me,” hitting me with a thud of conviction. I felt uncomfortable that although we Christians do an ok job sometimes of clothing the naked or feeding the hungry, we are real goats when it comes to visiting prisoners. I must’ve put some kind of mental bookmark in this experience, because it came back to me the minute I heard that a local church group has started visiting detainees in the York County Prison. I felt a calling to join them, and it immediately connected me back to this moment of conviction as a teenager.
The church group’s story is one that needs told (and I’m sure it will be eventually). But the story I want to tell today is that of Esther (not her real name). She is the person I have been visiting. All the while, she has been visiting us in this beautiful country, but you might not otherwise get to know her, since she is being held in prison.
She is a mother and a deacon in her church in El Salvador. She has a smile that shines and shows off the bright gold outlines of her front teeth, a classic mark of Latin American beauty. Our first visit got off to a rough start. Esther didn’t know exactly what she was getting into when she requested a visit. By the time we sat down she was crying (and we hadn’t even gotten over the hurdle of making the phone system work). Thanks to the help of each of the other detainees helping her type in all the right codes, we eventually got the phone to work. She told me about her feelings of discouragement, her depression, the pills they had given her to manage it, the claustrophobic feeling of the confines of the same eternal four walls. Then she asked me if I was a Christian, and her mood shifted dramatically. She began singing praise songs, and we recited our favorite bible verses (I am secretly ashamed at how much more of the Bible she has memorized, even though I’ve been to seminary!)
This last time together she told me a beautiful story about this one corner of the detention center where there are windows and you can see out. She said she stopped by and looked out one day and was delighted to hear birds singing. She only wished she could see them. So I told her all about the bird excitement I’ve had in my life this past week (tons of robins, the harbingers of spring! Also a neighborhood woodpecker sometimes outside of my window, sometimes at the end of the block by the bus stop, and the constant stream of geese overhead). She said the birds she heard may have been ducks, and we talked a little about the difference between geese and ducks (geese migrate, just like people).
We don’t talk about how she got to the detention center. Apparently some folks are sent directly from the boarder to the York county prison; others are apprehended by ICE at some point during the course of their daily lives (one man we visit has lived here in the US for 23 years). She did share that she had a hard day on Tuesday, because she had a hearing where her sister showed up hoping to post bail. While some inmates have had their bail set low ($800-$1500), the judge decided to set hers at $15,000 (a random thing completely up to the judge’s discretion).
The first day we met I told her a little about living in Bolivia and Mexico for several years. I raved about the incredible way I had been received in people’s homes and towns and villages. I told her about the countless times I was given the best the family could offer (and often the last tortilla in the kitchen). I told her about how much I had learned in Latin America; how grateful I was to be hosted.
That’s another reason I’m choosing to make a prison visit (even though it takes 3.5 hours of my day to do this half hour visit), because I’m so saddened by the fact that in my country we have a lot to learn about how to host. I heard a quote yesterday on NPR that over 100,000 people have crossed the boarder this month alone; escaping one broken system and entering into another.
In the prison, I feel like I’m playing the role of both host and hosted. On the one hand, I am a visitor in a completely foreign land. On the other, I am making myself the host to this human being, her joys and her woes; perhaps the only one really listening to her while she treads on our soil (or cement, in this case). I told her I wished we could be in my kitchen drinking coffee. She said I remind her of a neighbor of hers on the hillside of her town in El Salvador.
When our conversation is over, some of the ladies of the church group have started the tradition of putting our hands up on the glass, inviting the ladies on the other side to do the same. When I tried this with Esther, she tried it out, but it wasn’t quite right (I think it was just too disappointing to feel the cold glass instead of the warmth of a human hand). Instead, she blows me a kiss. It has had its clumsy moments, but together, we work to create the liminal space of hosting and hosted in the midst of this impossibly broken and hopeful world we live in.